When Failure Becomes Strength

Career Coaching: When Failure Becomes Strength. Have you ever failed? Have you ever fxxked something up so badly, maybe even publicly, that you no longer want to exist, let alone trying it again? Yep! Me too! I think what happens is that we get ‘failure’ all tangled up with shame. Then we get stuck. What we need to do instead is to reflect and take the good bits and replicate those,… So, imagine this: taking myself back to one of my first speaking events. I had everything lined up. I have a great pitch deck, I had the participants’ take-aways ready. I knew my stuff and, I still fxxked it up!

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I had chosen to illustrate my presentation with a very personal story. I had chosen to illustrate my presentation with a very personal story on a day when I felt vulnerable. I shared my very personal story… with courage…. And properly burst into tears. That was NOT the professional image I was seeking …..

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That was NOT the professional image I was seeking …..
I pulled myself together, got back in the horse, curated the participant’s responses, and signed off. I. Was. Mortified. The content wasn’t wrong, the timing wasn’t great. I had chosen to tell the wrong story, on the wrong day, for me …
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Career Coaching: When Failure Becomes Strength.

I could feel the shame flooding my body, head to foot other the coming days, alongside the army of inner critics with their unsolicited feedback of ‘who do you think you are” and ‘There’s exactly why your parents said you shouldn’t talk about it’. & “who’s going to hire you now….??? On and on they matched through my mind….. literally, it was a go down the garden and eat worms…
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Then, a little message popped up on LinkedIn from The Host: “Just wanted to share some feedback with you from your presentation …” And it included the words ‘life-changing” and “courageous and valuable” in it. I was gob-smacked – It DID have value…. I had had an impact. I didn’t need to curl up in a corner and cry. I had been of service to someone. who knew!
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As Edison said:“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” and he kept showing up until he did make that bulb light up.  We as a culture need to shift this belief that we have to get it right the first time. Or even that we didn’t get it right because it didn’t look like we thought it should.  What we need to do is to show up. We might just change someone’s life because we did.
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Show up! Risk it. I dare you. 
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If you wanna talk an idea through or you had a bruise through, book yourself in here.
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You can find Rebecca at the Daemon Career Coach