Trust

As a human I confess that I am a natural ‘rescuer’. I always have, and always will, wish to assist in generating positive outcomes for those who are facing challenges. This is not pathological for our society needs its healers. As a professional I have learned to discipline of having boundaries and the ensuing safety.

However much I empathise with my clients, I do not have their answers and I cannot do the work for them. This resilience is tested even further in motherhood. I really, REALLY want to ‘make it all better’ for him. Once again, whilst I have tools to help ease his journey, my son needs to find his own ways.

So in my coaching, mentoring and supervisory work, with groups and individuals I must surrender to my powerlessness over and over. I must put my belief in the individuals I work with. In this way I am free to meet my clients right where that are ‘at’. When I set my agenda aside, I am free to engage in the dance that is trustful of clients working it out for themselves and thus leads to the self generated solutions that are empowerment.

I practise ‘the pause’, because all the creative power lies in that pause. When I refuse to step in and fill the pause, the client must generate their own solution. I must introduce interventions prudently as nobody needs fixing, my job is to hold the space around them whilst they fix themselves. I must also be boundaried with my time. If between sessions I am busy being anxious on others behalf then I may be absent from my own world.

What I need to do, over and over, is trust. I need to trust that I will intervene only when it is needed. I must trust that clients will engage in this work to the extent that they will find their own authentic way. 

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