I Want….

I was taught that ‘I want doesn’t get’ when I was small…. But, I am discovering in adulthood, that this isn’t necessarily true.
Ok, we do need a bit of a shift in manners perhaps, add a ‘please’ and who knows what might happen. The essence of both ‘wanting’ and indeed of ‘asking’ are just fine!
There aren’t any guarantees that we will receive the things we think we want. There may be a multitude of reasons that the universe decides that it’s but the right thing or the right form or time, but if we don’t express that ‘want’ then nobody would ever know of our wishes. 
There is another downside to not expressing our wants. If others believe that expressing their wants is acceptable, then they will inevitably get some of them met. When we refuse to air our own needs we will get very few of our wants. When we see others getting some of what they want…. And us not getting any of it, then we can feel resentful. When we feel resentful we can withdraw or turn and fight. Neither are very effective. Neither are necessary had we been assertive in the beginning.
So in my opinion, more often than not ‘I want’ DOES get. Prefixed with an ‘I would like…’ I have begin to find the world an abundant and generous place and my resentment is reduced to almost zero!
Ask and you and you shall receive might be true after all. 

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