Maternity Returning: Core Values:

All humans have a handful of core values that are entirely central to their existence. Usually we are unaware that these are informing our decisions. They surface in two sets of circumstances. Firstly when there is profound change in our lives, and secondly when they are significantly compromised. When our core values, of where there are about 50, ranging from compassion to honesty, through love to generosity, are eroded, then we enter a conflict zone. When this continues for any length of time it will show up in our bodies as illness or our psyche as unhappiness until we can find a way to reconcile the things that do not sit well with us.

So with the transitions of motherhood and a return to work there is a double whammy of awareness potentially compromised core values. On facing the huge changes, albeit usually welcome ones, wrought by having a child, it can become very clear what is important to you as a woman. Behaviours and values in those around you, that you may have been able to turn a blind eye to in the past, can suddenly seem completely intolerable as you are suddenly connected clearly with what you see as ‘right’ and ‘wrong’.
Add returning to a work environment to this heightened awareness, and there is potential for real discomfort. Some of the discomfort might be temporary as you learn to juggle the needs of your baby alongside the demands of another job. Sometimes however the discomforts do not fade…..
If you struggle to juggle motherhood and work, it might not be your inadequacy. It might just be that, having become so much clearer about yourself, that it is much more important that your work is aligned with your core values. If you are struggling to juggle then hold the possibility in mind that it might not be a deficit in you, it might be a deficit in your job……….

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