The Benefits of Envy

it wasn’t until I was in my early 30’s the I began to recognise that to be envious has a purpose. As a child I had held the message that ‘envy was a sin’ and I am not even from a religious background. This message permeates all layers of our society & culture. It thus percolates through out our very being that it is wrong to want something that belongs to someone else.
On one level of course this message is entirely accurate. It is a purposeless existence if we spend our whole lives wishing we had that which others have worked for. Bitterness and stuckness is not the point of this discourse.
If however we use our envy then it can have benefit for us. Envy is a marvellous trigger. If we respond to the envy trigger we can set our ambition and set our course to get that thing, job, salary, boat or skill that we want. Being envious of someone is an indicator that we desire what they have.  
The potent version of this is not to take what they have from them, but to go and manifest if for ourselves. It is not about coverting it or stealing it or taking it from a fellow human, it is about honestly recognising and naming our wish and then honestly setting out to achieve it.
So envy without honesty is redundant. We need to be honest enough to own it so we don’t get stuck in it. We need to be honest enough to to name it in order that we know just what it is that we want. Only with honesty can use envy as a spring board into taking the action needed in order to make our desires come true.
What or who are you envious of? I’d love to know!

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