Leadership Coaching: Boundaries. Being really clear in business, work and life regarding where the line sits is really beneficial in lots of ways. It shows others exactly where they stand and interesting they seem to really quite like it. We did Shadow-work exercise. Working in partners one had the ability to draw their partner near or send them away. The deal was that the partner had to absolutely honour the signal. It was great knowing that we could pause someone approaching me, or even send them back a bit. Knowing that meant I could let my partner get way closer than I would have been comfortable with had I not had that control.
Paradoxically it was really lovely to be on the receiving end of such clear instructions. There was no emotional load to being signaled forward, asked to pause, or even to move back. Just a genuine desire to please my partner and gratitude for the clarity of Communication. Who knew I could be asked to go away and not take it personally! I enjoyed respecting the boundary. I really enjoyed not Janine to second guess the intention!
Being clear in your boundaries also consolidates your confidence. When you have written in words, what you will and will not tolerate, it strengthens your core. That means you can feel confident. If it is in writing it also serves as a reminder to both parties – there is no need to explain again – here it is, just like we agreed when we signed this contract here. That takes all the power out of any dispute. It is just as it is. It was agreed. Best adhere to it then.
This process does take an investment of time and exploration of self abs potential eventualities. You do need to take a look at the worst that could happen, just for a little time, in order to make provisions to cover it. Then come right back out of that ‘cave of potential disaster’, add the clause to your contract and then continue expecting the very best. What that means is you are safe in expecting the very best, because you know you have covered your back if the very worse were to show up!
Get Clear; With You and With Them: I Dare You!