Career coaching: Career Change — How many times have you ignored you gut instinct, only to think in hindsight “I flippin knew that!” when a situation goes awry? Yep! And Me, many, many a time… from jobs I have accepted that have subsequently been hell, to clients I have taken, who have then had me doing all the work! …. And every time I’m left thinking “I absolutely flippn knew that and I still took it on…”
In the Forbes Article “How to Stop Overthinking and Start Trusting Your Gut”, March 10, 2022, Melody Wilder describes the fear behind us accepting things that are not a good fit for us at The Push. It’s the energy that has us believing we Should or Ought to do something. The energy we are looking for in a good decision is The Pull, the desire to do the thing we are called to do. This is the energy that is SO easily over-ruled.
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We have been programmed to do “The Should”. And we are so used to The Push of The Should that it feels familiar – However, when you consider that ‘The Shoulds and Oughts” that, These should usually lie in other peoples expectations. They rarely belong to us at all. ….And yet we keep falling into the trap – and then thinking “ I absolutely knew that!’ All over again!
“The Science Behind Your Gut Feelings
Despite popular belief, there’s a deep neurological basis for intuition. Scientists call the stomach the “second brain” for a reason. There’s a vast neural network of 100 million neurons lining your entire digestive tract. That’s more neurons than are found in the spinal cord, which points to the gut’s incredible processing abilities.
When you approach a decision intuitively, your brain works in tandem with your gut to quickly assess all your memories, past learnings, personal needs, and preferences and then makes the wisest decision given the context. In this way, intuition is a form of emotional and experiential data that leaders need to value.”
So, here’s a thought: and, as simple as it sounds, it’s actually radical — What if instead of reacting to That Push of doing the thing that you ‘Should’ – you know, the secure salary, the status and the soul death. And INSTEAD, you rebelled and came to explore what you WANT to do instead….
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I have seen hundreds of new enterprises born and hundreds of career left-turns taken. And then I get to see people grow and flourish before my very eyes….. These are the outcomes when the rightful career decisions are taken. It takes a bit of work to really surface what that looks like for each individual. And, I don’t promise life will be a bed of roses of you decide to follow you purpose. I do know that people can and do over-come a multitude of obstacles when they are purpose-led and they are passionate about what they do….
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If you feel “pulled” or called then come and explore with me – this HAS to be better than the insanity of keeping on doing what you should and expecting the different outcome of being happy! If its not happened yet – Might that be enough evidence that its never going to work?
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Just a thought ….
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