The Comfort Zone is the beginning of the change cycle. However the comfort zone is not as comfortable as it actually sounds. You’ve heard the phrase: “Familiarity breeds contempt”? Well this is the area we are in when we choose to make change. We are in a place we know very well. We are in […]
There are broadly two types of people. Those who cannot seem to start and those who refuse to stop. The two personality types, the active and the passive, can drive each other slightly insane when they are in their default setting. This is as true in my marriage as it is in any other partnership […]
Do you ever look at your to-do list and know that, whilst you’re keeping all the small jobs ticking over, there’s a biggie on there that you’re avoiding….. And does avoiding it make it go away? And do you lose the satisfaction of ever getting to the bottom of the list? And does the fear […]
I feel traumatised by my own to-do list today. It feels like there is just too much to do in this day. Yep, it’s true, I could prioritise. I could begin with the activity that makes me most money. Or I could begin with my favourite client, or I could ignore the lot ….. But, […]
It strikes me that Spring is on the way. What also strikes me is that in nature, by the time we see new growth, much of the hard work has already been done. That whilst appearing dormant, bulbs and plants have been breaking open and putting their roots deep down in the ground. That during […]
Interestingly life has presented me with a whole heap of opportunities to challenge old perceptions of myself and reclaim them in new ways. This is doing me SO much good. Returning to a city I lived in over 20 years ago, inhabiting the ‘Me’ that I have become, is heartening. I probably didn’t let myself […]
You can have it all, but the bad news is that this can only be for some of the time. Yes there are days or weeks when we humans can go all-out to achieve our aims. We can juggle social commitments and meeting professional targets and achieving our personal goals. For a time we flourish […]
Spending time with a colleague this morning I was noticing how she was comparing her inside feelings, with my outside self. Interestingly enough, she came off worse. Not in any way because I am doing any better than her. but because she was measuring her vulnerable emotions against an engineered facade. This is not to […]
We cannot learn unless we are curious. We cannot even begin to understand another’s perceptions and feelings, needs and desires, unless we ask questions. …… and how can we relate to others, our friends, our clients, our families, unless we at least want try to ‘get’ where they are coming from? The same word can […]
You may be terrified of doing something new. Sure, you may have been awake much of the night worrying about your presentation. Or you may be dealing with a family crisis that’s shaken your confidence. You may have concerns for your own abilities, but, more often than not, its a risk worth taking. If we […]