Multiple demands are made of us, everyday, in a multitude of ways. Things to be done for work rest and play, for ourselves and for employees and for family and friends. Things to mend, proposals to be written, records to be kept and minutes to transcribe…. & on it goes. I have a confession to […]
There are days where we lose self-belief and things seem hard and we can feel ‘less than’ The people who surround us….. From this place in ourselves we can recognise the strengths in others but only the vulnerabilities in ourselves. These can be dark days. Perhaps it helps at these times to hold on to […]
Is what I find myself saying in support of the small boy as he walks up to the door to school. I notice that this is not how I communicate with myself. Listening to the monologue of my inside-voice I was re-startled at the persistent criticism I have begun sending recently in my own direction, […]
I had a weird experience last night. At a meeting I noticed that the tension between myself and a really amazing colleague had dissolved. Whilst there had been no malintent, I think I had been little awed by her brilliance and had perhaps been prickly or defensive in return? So on quitting the venue last […]
It’s amazing how self-limiting we can become without even noticing. Humans are creatures of habit, and we can easily, especially in the dark months of the year, get into a rut of dong the same things over and over. We may not even be happy doing some of these familiar things over and over, but, […]
In moments of rage and despair it is too easy to forget that there was a time of enjoyment before this ‘present’, or indeed that there shall be anything beyond it. I am living proof, as indeed are you, that there is life after hurt. I believe it is a Buddhist belief that the measure […]
If you feel your boss has been unfair, or your client has misread your contract, if something you have published has been misconstrued or you’ve been on the receiving end of the criticism about a mistake that someone else has made…… The accusation can feel very unjust. The natural human response to unfairness is fear, […]
I attended a business finance course today….. I learned three things. Firstly I learned that when the trainer is unfamiliar with the intricacies of the course content, it can make it difficult to to decipher some of the information. It simply does not translate. Secondly I learned that for all the ‘models’ and ‘channels’ one […]
Is a question I get asked often when people notice a blog every week day. The first rule is show up. Nothing will get written if I don’t write. Some days I do not want to write. These days are usually the days I need to write and I learn most. The second rule is […]
Whilst there is no such thing as a bad client, there are such things as personality mismatches or clients who perhaps not yet ready to dive headlong into the issue that needs addressing. Or there are clients with whom the relationship is in its early ‘forming’ stage and the boundaries and challenge zones are just […]