Was my mother’s advice today on the phone, and, sometimes, I even listen to her….? The previous day had been an unmitigated disaster (& I shan’t bore you with the details of a 5 year olds birthday!), and today was busy being one of those days when, depleted, everything I touched turned to shite …… […]
The universe is arranged backwards in one fundamental aspect: The fact that you do not get the courage to do the thing you are scared of until AFTER you have done it, always has seemed like madness to me. But if we weren’t frightened to do something then the the word ‘courage’ would have no […]
“It’s ain’t what you do it’s the way that you do it” that’s what the song says anyway and I do believe they’re right. When designing your next career step, the choice of vocation is one only you can make. It is the way that you do it is what will ensure its success. If you […]
Barry Swartz said: “Focus on what makes you happy, and do what gives meaning to your life” But herein lies a question or certainly a need for clarification. What is that ‘thing’ we should focus on? The majority of us in the western world have had reasonably good education and relatively privileged childhoods. These benefits will […]
……Is that we can cause all sorts of difficulties for ourselves. We can talk ourselves both in, and out, of any opportunity or plan. We can do this over and over until we barely know which way is up or indeed what we wanted to achieve in the first place…… What an exhausting process! How […]
There aren’t many humans who fear the moment that the price is quoted and the silence descends……. especially if you are British! It is not the done thing to discuss money. It is perhaps even seen as impolite or rude. What it actually is, is frightening. In business, at some point a deal must be […]
When things are stressful and work deadlines loom, it is really easy to be so very focused on the project and only the project. When immersed in the intricacies of the tiny details, the risk is that bigger picture ceases to exist. With our heads down, driving the project forwards, we can neglect to attend […]
I am intrigued observing my reaction to a cancelled meeting. Not only did it have business potential, but I also wished to see the colleague concerned as we have much to catch up on. There’s a series of emotions that surface in response to this kind of event. What I am enjoying is that the process […]
Firstly, prepare. I cannot emphasise this aspect more. If you are an anxious-avoidant personality then MAKE yourself face the oncoming challenge. Be it an interview, a exam counting towards your CPD or putting a business start-up proposal to the bank, prepare! In this digital age it is easy to discover the answers that you will […]
It is very British to be unable to accept a compliment with any kind of grace. It is also very British to be unable to value our own skills for ourselves. We are in a bizarre catch 22 situation of not being able to hear how good we are because we don’t allow ourselves to […]