I am unsure if this is a gender difference, although in Linda Babcock’s book “why women don’t ask’ I am certainly sure she would name it as such, but whilst I was swimming this morning I noticed an interesting shift in me. As a fairly proficient and certainly a keen swimmer, I realised that I […]
Whilst this sounds like one of those blindingly obvious statements, it is amazing just how often we do not do so. Often when making a plan for the future, we actually start from where we would like to be or indeed the plan was where we believe we should be. ‘Should’ is an important word […]
It might seem like an arse-backwards phrase but it strikes me increasingly, that whilst we might extend love or kindness and friendship to others, and they in return to us, we often behave in an opposite manner internally towards ourselves. Where we would treat clients with unconditional positive regard, we often judge ourselves hardest. Where […]
…….is not a phrase that is said too often. It is something that is usually viewed as an asset to any team or project. As a completer-finisher I (& those who know, love or work with me!), know only too well that there are downsides to this trait. Firstly, because I have no intention of […]
I never ‘got’ that word when I was small. Somehow when I heard it said of me I would understand somehow that I was ‘different’ from other people and inherent within that was a separateness. It seemed as if others stood together and I stood apart, alone? I only write of this now because I […]
Was my mother’s advice today on the phone, and, sometimes, I even listen to her….? The previous day had been an unmitigated disaster (& I shan’t bore you with the details of a 5 year olds birthday!), and today was busy being one of those days when, depleted, everything I touched turned to shite …… […]
The universe is arranged backwards in one fundamental aspect: The fact that you do not get the courage to do the thing you are scared of until AFTER you have done it, always has seemed like madness to me. But if we weren’t frightened to do something then the the word ‘courage’ would have no […]
“It’s ain’t what you do it’s the way that you do it” that’s what the song says anyway and I do believe they’re right. When designing your next career step, the choice of vocation is one only you can make. It is the way that you do it is what will ensure its success. If you […]
Barry Swartz said: “Focus on what makes you happy, and do what gives meaning to your life” But herein lies a question or certainly a need for clarification. What is that ‘thing’ we should focus on? The majority of us in the western world have had reasonably good education and relatively privileged childhoods. These benefits will […]
……Is that we can cause all sorts of difficulties for ourselves. We can talk ourselves both in, and out, of any opportunity or plan. We can do this over and over until we barely know which way is up or indeed what we wanted to achieve in the first place…… What an exhausting process! How […]