The Comfort Zone is the beginning of the change cycle. However the comfort zone is not as comfortable as it actually sounds. You’ve heard the phrase: “Familiarity breeds contempt”? Well this is the area we are in when we choose to make change. We are in a place we know very well. We are in […]
As a coach supervisor, a very large portion of my job is to really understand the culture or context in which my coachee, or my supervisee and their client, live and work. When a client says they feel ‘angry’ about something, it is very unlikely that their ‘angry’ is exactly the same as my ‘angry’. […]
There are broadly two types of people. Those who cannot seem to start and those who refuse to stop. The two personality types, the active and the passive, can drive each other slightly insane when they are in their default setting. This is as true in my marriage as it is in any other partnership […]
Of course one of the major reasons we work is to earn money. Money however is never the whole story. Whether you call it work, employment, a career path or volunteering, they all bring many other benefits that contribute to our wellbeing as humans. Firstly there is a sense of ‘belonging’ and all humans have […]
Do you ever look at your to-do list and know that, whilst you’re keeping all the small jobs ticking over, there’s a biggie on there that you’re avoiding….. And does avoiding it make it go away? And do you lose the satisfaction of ever getting to the bottom of the list? And does the fear […]
I was taught that ‘I want doesn’t get’ when I was small…. But, I am discovering in adulthood, that this isn’t necessarily true. Ok, we do need a bit of a shift in manners perhaps, add a ‘please’ and who knows what might happen. The essence of both ‘wanting’ and indeed of ‘asking’ are just […]
How often do we say this to children, and yet shred ourselves as we try and get things absolutely perfect? Perhaps we can apply the parenting principle to our professional world too? Winnicott says that the gap between the ‘perfect’ mother and the real one is the child’s opportunity to grow. If we do everything […]
Put simply, self-belief, be it in your personal or your professional life, comes with practise. Somehow it is easier to give way to self-doubt and when we do, our worlds get smaller and more restricted as we allow ourselves to be frightened by the ‘what ifs’. The solution to these ‘what if’s’ that corrode our […]
I feel traumatised by my own to-do list today. It feels like there is just too much to do in this day. Yep, it’s true, I could prioritise. I could begin with the activity that makes me most money. Or I could begin with my favourite client, or I could ignore the lot ….. But, […]
Once we have set our intention, it’s no bad thing to hone in on the details.To focus on sweating the small stuff does serve a purpose, if we use it in the right way, at the right time. Firstly it ensures that the business, work, or service we provide is of the high standard we […]