How often do we say this to children, and yet shred ourselves as we try and get things absolutely perfect? Perhaps we can apply the parenting principle to our professional world too? Winnicott says that the gap between the ‘perfect’ mother and the real one is the child’s opportunity to grow. If we do everything […]
Put simply, self-belief, be it in your personal or your professional life, comes with practise. Somehow it is easier to give way to self-doubt and when we do, our worlds get smaller and more restricted as we allow ourselves to be frightened by the ‘what ifs’. The solution to these ‘what if’s’ that corrode our […]
I feel traumatised by my own to-do list today. It feels like there is just too much to do in this day. Yep, it’s true, I could prioritise. I could begin with the activity that makes me most money. Or I could begin with my favourite client, or I could ignore the lot ….. But, […]
Once we have set our intention, it’s no bad thing to hone in on the details.To focus on sweating the small stuff does serve a purpose, if we use it in the right way, at the right time. Firstly it ensures that the business, work, or service we provide is of the high standard we […]
On asking my husband what to blog about, he, possibly slightly passive-aggressively, suggested ‘assertiveness’. I giggled as a watched he’s him unwillingly wielding the hoover and began. Having come from a household where, as the only child of two teachers, I had always found it rather difficult to have my small opinion heard, I moved out […]
It strikes me that Spring is on the way. What also strikes me is that in nature, by the time we see new growth, much of the hard work has already been done. That whilst appearing dormant, bulbs and plants have been breaking open and putting their roots deep down in the ground. That during […]
In this society we are overly encouraged to ‘buy’ ourselves treats as rewards for success. I believe however that reward comes in many forms…… Yesterday was a huge professional turning point for me, and today I feel depleted. I know that it took a huge push to achieve my goal yesterday. Luckily, what I also […]
Sit and ‘think’ about something for too long and if you’re anything like me, you can talk yourself into doing something and right back out of it again. If you are like me you can do this several times over and perhaps explore a few more options, and, in the end, do none of them. […]
Interestingly life has presented me with a whole heap of opportunities to challenge old perceptions of myself and reclaim them in new ways. This is doing me SO much good. Returning to a city I lived in over 20 years ago, inhabiting the ‘Me’ that I have become, is heartening. I probably didn’t let myself […]
We do not hear ourselves, or our own needs and desires, for a variety of reasons. One of the reasons is practical. Most of us are very busy, juggling work and home and family and friends and community and it seems there is little time to set aside for ourselves. On a deeper level however […]