If, like me, you spent much of your childhood being told you were ‘over-sensitive’, the chances are that you will be carrying that message well into your adulthood. The chances are also that you may be seeing this as attribute as a curse and missing the benefits of your natural responsiveness. The true title of […]
……Is that we can cause all sorts of difficulties for ourselves. We can talk ourselves both in, and out, of any opportunity or plan. We can do this over and over until we barely know which way is up or indeed what we wanted to achieve in the first place…… What an exhausting process! How […]
There is nothing like an emergency to help you establish your priorities. Whether the trigger is physical, emotional, financial, is often an irrelevance. They all stimulate exactly the same chemical in our brains, adrenaline. This is the fight or flight drug. You’ll have heard of it. One of the effects it can have in our […]
These words from Oriah’s “the invitation” always resonate with me: “I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it or fix it.” http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com/ And this is the basis for all healing. It is within the moment following important words being spoken, that […]
What if we believed we could choose our mindset? It is possible to look at just about any situation, or any individual, in a multitude of different ways. Then we evidence-gather to ‘prove’ this to ourselves. Sometimes it is preferable to feel ‘safe’ and ‘right’, even if we neither like the conclusion we reach, and […]
We do not hear ourselves, or our own needs and desires, for a variety of reasons. One of the reasons is practical. Most of us are very busy, juggling work and home and family and friends and community and it seems there is little time to set aside for ourselves. On a deeper level however […]
Few professionals would admit that sneaking off for a snooze mid afternoon constitutes ‘agility’. Call it a ‘power nap’ however and you’re in a different realm. When one is early to rise AND late to usher the last client out through the door, you have to make the most of opportunities as they present themselves. […]
Firstly, remember to breathe. You might think I jest but when we feel hurt, overlooked or let down, the thought, becomes a feeling, becomes a physical hurt. A deep breath, or several, gives the whole experience some space. Wait 72 hours before responding. In the heat of the moment, in a desire either to retaliate […]
Firstly there is reward in a job well done. The people who we did the work on behalf of will usually acknowledge this too. Colleagues can be invaluable in helping us recognise our achievements. There is nothing better than peer-recognition. These people know just what it took to make the project work. Secondly there is […]
It is very British to be unable to accept a compliment with any kind of grace. It is also very British to be unable to value our own skills for ourselves. We are in a bizarre catch 22 situation of not being able to hear how good we are because we don’t allow ourselves to […]