We do not hear ourselves, or our own needs and desires, for a variety of reasons. One of the reasons is practical. Most of us are very busy, juggling work and home and family and friends and community and it seems there is little time to set aside for ourselves. On a deeper level however […]
Few professionals would admit that sneaking off for a snooze mid afternoon constitutes ‘agility’. Call it a ‘power nap’ however and you’re in a different realm. When one is early to rise AND late to usher the last client out through the door, you have to make the most of opportunities as they present themselves. […]
Firstly, remember to breathe. You might think I jest but when we feel hurt, overlooked or let down, the thought, becomes a feeling, becomes a physical hurt. A deep breath, or several, gives the whole experience some space. Wait 72 hours before responding. In the heat of the moment, in a desire either to retaliate […]
Firstly there is reward in a job well done. The people who we did the work on behalf of will usually acknowledge this too. Colleagues can be invaluable in helping us recognise our achievements. There is nothing better than peer-recognition. These people know just what it took to make the project work. Secondly there is […]
It is very British to be unable to accept a compliment with any kind of grace. It is also very British to be unable to value our own skills for ourselves. We are in a bizarre catch 22 situation of not being able to hear how good we are because we don’t allow ourselves to […]
As humans and as professionals, we all have our own unique combinations of things that count as ‘hell’. We also all have our own combinations of coping strategies that see us through these disaster zones. My own particular version of hell right now is a 4 year old just gone to Big School, a husband […]
It being the last day before The Small Boy starts at Big School brings me to considering how little we sometimes value our ‘present’. Being right here, right now is after all, a gift. We will all have known those who have not had the privilege of making it this far with us. None of […]
Often coaching work involves a ‘permission giving’ role. Usually clients know, deep down, exactly what they wish to do. Once we have excavated to discover what you want and need, then, I can enable you to enable yourself to do that thing….. So today I give you the permission to do just what you need […]
There is always something to be done. If it’s not a the business calling, it’s the four year old, if it’s not the finances spreading themselves over every surface, when I finally sit down on the sofa all I can see is the secondary glazing that needs beginning …. Stop! I honestly believe that it […]
With a sleep deprived night, & a lack of knowledge of where you’re going, & of the technicalities involved in a website build? Can you make it to that meeting? Yes you can! Feel the fear and do it anyway has a lot to say for it, but, the caveat is that you act upon it! […]