I have clients approaching me now, aged 29, saying “I’m nearly thirty” and I still don’t know what I want to do with my career. They have panic flitting across their faces. These individuals feel they are failing. I also have clients aged between 30 and fifty who are saying “There has to be more […]
Once you have opened the door to personal and professional development, it is nigh on impossible to shut it again. If that sentence frightens you then I would, on one level, agree that it should. In reality however, any step into learning more about yourself and your world will only ever enrich your career. It […]
As a coach supervisor, a very large portion of my job is to really understand the culture or context in which my coachee, or my supervisee and their client, live and work. When a client says they feel ‘angry’ about something, it is very unlikely that their ‘angry’ is exactly the same as my ‘angry’. […]
Of course one of the major reasons we work is to earn money. Money however is never the whole story. Whether you call it work, employment, a career path or volunteering, they all bring many other benefits that contribute to our wellbeing as humans. Firstly there is a sense of ‘belonging’ and all humans have […]
I was taught that ‘I want doesn’t get’ when I was small…. But, I am discovering in adulthood, that this isn’t necessarily true. Ok, we do need a bit of a shift in manners perhaps, add a ‘please’ and who knows what might happen. The essence of both ‘wanting’ and indeed of ‘asking’ are just […]
How often do we say this to children, and yet shred ourselves as we try and get things absolutely perfect? Perhaps we can apply the parenting principle to our professional world too? Winnicott says that the gap between the ‘perfect’ mother and the real one is the child’s opportunity to grow. If we do everything […]
Put simply, self-belief, be it in your personal or your professional life, comes with practise. Somehow it is easier to give way to self-doubt and when we do, our worlds get smaller and more restricted as we allow ourselves to be frightened by the ‘what ifs’. The solution to these ‘what if’s’ that corrode our […]
On asking my husband what to blog about, he, possibly slightly passive-aggressively, suggested ‘assertiveness’. I giggled as a watched he’s him unwillingly wielding the hoover and began. Having come from a household where, as the only child of two teachers, I had always found it rather difficult to have my small opinion heard, I moved out […]
In this society we are overly encouraged to ‘buy’ ourselves treats as rewards for success. I believe however that reward comes in many forms…… Yesterday was a huge professional turning point for me, and today I feel depleted. I know that it took a huge push to achieve my goal yesterday. Luckily, what I also […]
Interestingly life has presented me with a whole heap of opportunities to challenge old perceptions of myself and reclaim them in new ways. This is doing me SO much good. Returning to a city I lived in over 20 years ago, inhabiting the ‘Me’ that I have become, is heartening. I probably didn’t let myself […]