“Leadership is about empathy. It is about having the ability to relate to, and connect with people for the purpose of inspiring and empowering their lives. “ anon So what is empathy? What it is not is sympathy. Empathy is not feeling sorry for people. Empathy is the desire and ability to understand how THEY are […]
One of the best questions a client has asked me in recent years is this:‘What do I need to do in order to make the most of this coaching?’I was quite put in the spot: this was qualitative, not quantitative. The answer I gave was “Bring your Openness, your Honesty, and your Willingness”. I watch […]
Career coaching: Insanity. In order to change your circumstances, you need to act differently. In order to act differently, you need to take risks. Humans are generally risk-averse. This is a natural part of our psyche. We don’t want to step into the unknown. We want to know exactly what the outcome will be if […]
Leadership Coaching: Humility. Every worked with someone who can’t admit they got it wrong? How infuriating is that? Everyone makes mistakes. In most cases, the sky doesn’t fall in. So much is lost if those mistakes aren’t acknowledged: the lessons contained within and often the loyalty of those who know exactly what happened. The more […]
Career Coaching: Portfolio Career. Increasingly people come to me seeking their Professional Thing, only to find that what they really want, is a series of Professional Things. They want to earn thier living by honouring several strands of things that they love. This is perfectly possible and very joyous for certain personality types. These days […]
Leadership Coaching: Conflict. It is impossible to lead without conflict. Don’t try to fool yourself into believing that all leadership work will be all sweetness and light. Just like in life, everyone ain’t gonna be your best friend. Not everyone is going to share your vision, your egalitarianism or your empowering attitude, all of the time. […]
Career Coach: Imposter syndrome is SO common. Much more common than you would ever imagine. When you see how some people ‘present’ themselves, you would assume they have never doubted themselves and their ability to do their job, ever. I would counteract that by saying the everyone has their doubts on some days. Comparing […]
Leadership coaching: Cultural Change. If management is getting tasks done through people then Leadership is making change through people. That means that “leadership” suddenly doesn’t look as clear-cut as I had imagined. Leaders to me, were the traditional bosses; Those authoritarian types who give orders top down. Now, I know this not to be true. […]
Career coaching: Shame Working with people with the beliefs that they have held of themselves, we frequently reach a point where the client will shame themselves for having had them in the first place. This is NOT USEFUL! Even if we have outgrown the belief we have just identified. Even if we can see that it […]
Last Saturday, I immersed myself in 12 hours of personal development work (on my weekend!), and, at the end of it, I did not want to leave… That’s a bold statement from a woman who works in personal development all week long. It is also a bold statement from a woman who has built a […]